The wedding is the most sacred event in a person’s life. It has been one of the purest relations for human beings and they tend to carry this relation of purity and love with them all their life. The wedding is an event that is marked with the most attractive ceremonies that are conducted in the witness of family members and friends.
But before a women or a man plans for her wedding day, they need to find their perfect match and for that, they can easily take the help of various online matrimonial sites and find their Mr. or Ms. Perfect.
It is true that human traditions are influenced by the social customs and social norms just to impose the respective status in the professional developments. Wedding not just creates relation among the ones getting married but it also creates relations among two families. Each member of the family is bound by a new relation that initiates the better relationship with all the members. In every family, there are various relations that bind each of the family members to each other. With the wedding, another relation is added to the family. Be it the groom’s side or the bride’s side both the family has a new family member and a new set of relations that come with them.
I have always heard people saying that marriage bonds two souls together in a relation of love but the reality is it binds two very different families together in a relation that are conjoined due to their children. Marriage is not only between two people but it is rather between two families, two cultures and also between two societies.
In India, it is very important that a man and a woman get married in front of the society and by following all the social norms and culture. As I visit different wedding ceremonies I realize that everyday wedding is becoming more of a social promotion of relation than binding of two people in a sacred bond of love. Every guest at the wedding is not there to just bless and congratulate the newlywed but they are there to see what kind of lavish arrangements have been done, what kind of food are being served, what kind of jewellery and dress the bride is wearing and all those things that hardly matter. But this is important as these are some social norms we are bound to follow.
“A great marriage is not the union of the perfect couple, but an imperfect couple who accepts and embraces each other’s flaws.”
We all know about this saying but seldom have we abided by it. In India, marriage is respected and it is full of family values. Each relation that is formed after marriage is treated with hospitality and respect on both sides of the family. We all know that opposites attract and have been hearing about different sayings on marriage for years but when it comes to selecting a bride or a groom, our natural choice is choosing someone from a good family or to more precise to select someone whose family background matches ours. This little detail matter so much for us because we think of the society and think about the social impact our choice will have on our society. Every state has their own style of the traditional marriage according to the demography, language, and religion. But the one common thing that makes every state similar is that almost all men prefer to get married a woman who is suitable for their society, their educational and family status.
We all know that weddings in India include various steps that are respective to religion and regional customs around the state. The number of marriages that I have witnessed has been Hindu marriages and the rituals of the marriage are carried out on the basis of Hindu religion. In the Hindu, tradition groom weds his bride and promises to be with her for the lifetime.
The start of a Hindu wedding happens with engagement, where the bride and the groom exchange wedding rings a symbol of commitment and also announcing to the society that they are committed to be wed. This custom is just symbolic and has been followed by generations. Also, the other religions like Muslims, Christians, and Sikhs also follow their own marriage rituals that are very different from each other but the rituals define their custom. We all are motivated by our society and are always ready to make a social impact with our choices.
With digitalization, everyone is who is looking for their perfect match are logging on to various Indian match making sites and are choosing their life partner from the site’s vast database. Now a day, I have seen very few people considering their friends and relatives to find a perfect match for their children. People are even contacting different wedding planners to plan a lavish wedding just to match their social standards.
But the real question that comes to my mind when I attend such weddings is whether all these lavish arrangements are really important because no one remembers the decor or what the bride wore to her wedding but they do remember the little fun they have. The fun that a sister in law gets in teasing her new brother in law and the little heart to heart chat that the father of the groom and bride have with each other. But still, as marriages have becoming more of a promotion of relations we are indulging in it and forgetting to have these little moments.
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