I have heard many women complaining that why can’t the men they like ever commit to them, why do they leave them when they ask them about the next step. The common thread among these women are that they are choosing men who clearly is not a husband or even relationship material and hoping that by some miraclehe’ll suddenly transform into the knight in shining armor they want. These type of transformation only exist in those romantic comedy movies or those typical romantic novel. If you choose to take forward a relationship with a guy who is clearly not a husband material, then you are preparing for a heart break.
The only problem with these type of guys is that they have a lot of the qualities we want, but not the ones we actually need. When it is about relationships there is a big difference between wants and needs, but sometimes it gets tough to make the difference. I have heard many girls telling that they have a list of qualities that they want in their Mr. Perfect and when I asked a few they start by saying he should be tall and strapping and charismatic and should be settled financially, but sometimes it so happens that a guy with all these credentials might have a host of other qualities that we do not want and some that do not fulfill your fundamental emotional needs.
Whether you are single, dating or in a long term relationship you should always make sure that the man you are with is a husband material and will not break your heart. Here are few signs that show that He is a husband material:
He Accepts Your Flaws With A Smile
You do not need to pretend to be anyone else in front of him. You can be your vulnerable self and feel safe at the same time as you know that he will not make you feel guilty of your flaws but will adore them and embrace you as you are.
He Is There Whenever You Need Him
Every partnership, at a point of time requires sacrifice and compromise. Life is very unpredictable. You can’t predict what will happen and nothing can possibly go as planned all the time. A guy who is husband-material will always be there for you when you need him the most. He will walk through all ups and downs with you, he will be with you through the storm, even though he may prefer to stay in the sunshine.
Takes Your Opinion In To Consideration
Relationship is a partnership or companionship and not a dictatorship. Respecting you in front of others and not when you are alone, is not the kind of man you would want to spend your life with. He should show you that he wants to spend his life with you and not just make you a part of his life. You are two different people and come from very different worlds so it should be his duty to take all your wants, needs and preference into consideration. Before taking any decision he should ask you that is a true relationship.
He Is Growth Oriented
No person is perfect, we all have flaws. These flaws are not always black or white but they have different shades. Sometimes it so happens that your biggest strength turns out to be your biggest weakness. In a relationship, your personal behavior can have an impact on your partner, the impact can be negative or positive but it does have an effect. If he is growth-oriented, then he will not impose his flaw on you rather he will work on it. I have heard many women saying that their partner tells them about their flaws and ask them to deal with it. This is the type of men who are not a husband material and will definitely break your heart.
Common Beliefs And Values
We always say that the best relations are those where the couple have common beliefs and values but in real life we gladly overlook this little fact. If the man you are with is a husband material, he will make sure that you both are on the same page when it comes to issues that matter. And by any chance if you aren’t on the same page, then you should make sure he respects your beliefs and values and vice versa. Both of you should try to reach a middle ground. This difference in opinion can come in any field be it religion, core values, lifestyle preferences, where you want to live, or even whether you want to have children or not. But if he values your opinion and does not force his decision onto you then he is the man you should get married to.
If you feel that the man you are with is drawn to the single, bachelor, party boy lifestyle, he is definitely not marriage-minded and you are setting yourself up for a heart break. If you want a lasting commitment, make sure he is on the same page. When a guy is ready for commitment, it is pretty obvious. And if it isn’t, then you should bring up the topic and discuss it with him. If he is a husband material, he will understand what you mean and if he is not then at least you got to know before it got too late.
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