Daughters tend to never grow up in their father’s eyes, so a daughter’s marriage is a father’s dream. A father always wants his beloved daughter to get married to someone who will love her more than anything else. So, fathers always wish to find the perfect match for their daughter. As time is changing and the western culture is influencing everyone in a better way the concept of arranged marriage is converting into love cum arrange marriage. If a girl is in love with a guy she brings him home to meet her parents so that they can approve him and the relation can move forward. Your daughter can be intelligent, and independent but that does not mean you should not ask the man who wishes to marry your daughter anything before you officially give your daughter to him. This is the right time to satisfy all your queries because after your daughter is married asking anything will not be valid. So, here is the list of 8 questions parents should ask to their future son in law.
1. Are You Ready For Such A Commitment?
This is a straight forward question that asks for a straight forward answer. A daughter’s parents should always ask this question first to their future son in law as this is the most important question of all. They have all the rights to know if the man their daughter love is ready for the next step in the relationship and if he is ready to commit to her for life. As the lines go “in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish till death do us apart”. Every parent should ask this question to know if the man is ready to take this vow seriously or not.
2. Why Do You Think My Daughter Will Be A Good Wife?
While asking this question, every parent should listen closely as this question is the next question that will help you to see if there are any red flags. You should listen closely to your future son in law expresses his views on your daughter whether he likes the superficial things like her looks and her cooking ability or dose he values her in the true sense by admiring her personality, character, her passion and every little thing that make her who she is. This is the pass or fails question that is worth asking.
3. Can You Smartly Handle A Disagreement?
Disagreement is a very common part of any relationship as we are different individuals and are thinking is very different from each other. This is a valid question to ask just to know if your future son in law can take care of any situation thrown at him. We all have some relatives who come to any family function just to create problems so it is always the son in laws work to manage the situation smartly.
4. What Is Your Goal In Life?
This is another one of those questions that can raise red flags. Parents of the bride have the right to know whether their future son in law is a hard worker or will he be lazing around the house while their daughter works hard. This may seem a very normal thing but this small thing turns into big fights after marriage. It is better if this point is clear beforehand itself.
5. How Will You Save Your Marriage If It Faces Problem?
The answer that every parent expects to this question is “of course I will do anything to save my marriage” because it is about their daughter’s life and no parent would want a man for their daughter who will throw the towel at the first sign of hardship. Hardship faced in marriages are very common because a hardship is the prove that your relationship is based on something more that superficial things.
6. Are You Good Friends First And Then Lovers?
We forget the fact that a couple should first be friends because good friends can resolve any problem in a jiffy and they can share anything with each other. A parent should ask this question as it is very important to know whether both of you trust each other or not and if you are honest with each other or not.
7. Why Do You Want To Marry My Daughter?
When the man your daughter, loves walks in through your doors this is the first question that pops up in every parent’s mind. But some tend to not ask but some save it for the last but whatever be it you should ask this question to know why the man wants to marry your beloved daughter or is he even capable of getting hitched to your daughter. The answer to this question is basically your choice if you are satisfied with his answer then he passes or he fails.
8. Are You Going To Take Care Of Her Mentally?
Every parent knows that their daughter is smart and is very well capable of taking care of herself because that is how they have brought her up. But when it comes to their daughter’s marriage they always wonder about this. But the care they are thinking about is taking care of her mentally. After marriage, a girl gets so involved in her new life that her dreams and aspirations take a back seat so it is always her better half’s role to push her to achieve her dreams and support her in whatever way he can.
And finally, if you are satisfied with all the answers he has given just give a slight smile and give your blessings to the new couple so that he can take a sigh of relief.